Intentional Queens, you are what you think, it starts within you! Your thoughts and feelings are like little seeds that grow! You want to make sure they remain positive, so you can manifest positive things in life! You must speak positive affirmations over yourself daily, so it can become a trained habit! Believe in yourself and trust the process! Remember you are a Giraffe out there in these streets (T.D. Jakes- “giraffes vs. turtles”)!
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“As An Intentional Queen Thinketh”
0:06
Hey guys, welcome back to the Intentional Queen Journey Podcast with your girl Jineen. I am so excited to be doing this next episode with you guys. First and foremost, I had a women’s night last night it was called intentionally uplifting women’s night and we had a few girls come out, or I shouldn’t say girls were gonna say women, Queens, they came out to support me for my podcast launch, if you will, and spend some quality girl empowerment time with your girl Jineen, and I feel like it was awesome. The spirit moved through that night, the women were able to be vulnerable. I learned so much that all the feedback from the ladies who were there was like Jineen, we got to do it again. So shout out to those ladies. And some of them are now listening to this episode. So I told them, I was going to shout them out. So this is my shout out to you ladies, you empowered me last night, I was so proud to be amongst such a good group of women.
Jineen (Host) 1:04
So today, we’re going to call this episode “as an Intentional Queen Thinketh”. There’s a book called, “As a man thinketh” by a man named James Allen. The book is pretty old. It was published back in 1903. So you see we are in 2020, going into 2021. So this book was a long time ago, the book was a good read. But as we started digging into the last few things on the podcast about vulnerability, being planted, showing gratitude, planning our vision, and prepping for our purpose, this book came into play. Mainly because pretty much “as a man thinketh” or for this episode, “as an intentional queen thinketh” is our next step from our vision, our purpose, and leading towards our journey on restoration.
Jineen (Host) 1:50
I even talked about this last night at the women’s event about mindset and mindset is everything. But James Allen has a quote in his book called “we’re limited by the thoughts we choose, our character can be summarized by our thoughts. If we think the same, we will be the same, and we will have the same results.”
Jineen (Host) 2:08
So pretty much if you’re expecting something to change, you have to change your attitude, your demeanor, your thoughts, everything needs to change. So you’re not continuously having the same results because you’re not doing the same thing. As we dive more into this, let’s talk about purpose. Purpose, when you do a literature review on it, it’s a goal or an intention hence why this podcast is called intentional queen. Then you go into your vision, a vision is the ability to plan for the future. And it gives your purpose a direction.
Jineen (Host) 2:44
What I’ve learned going through this journey is that restoration and happiness is not a destination, but yet it’s a journey. So people ask me, How did I come up with the title of this podcast? It took a lot of thought. But when I really started boiling down to where I was trying to go with this, this is why restoration is in it and why it is called journey to restoration. And it’s intentional, because we’re being deliberate about how we’re going to do it, and how we’re going to get to where we need to be so we can level up each other. And I feel like last night because you can tell I’m so happy. Last night we were just leveling each other up, which was great.
Jineen (Host) 3:24
Proverbs 23:7 says, as a man thinketh in his heart, so he is, and Romans 12:2 says, A man must renew his mind. I’m gonna leave you with another thing that TD Jakes said. And it was funny. I just did an interview with my friend on another podcast and she saw me sipping my giraffe cup. And I got giraffes everywhere around the house, because we’ll get into what you thinketh is also about the affirmations and the things you put in front of yourself. So giraffes are big to me. But TD Jakes said back on The Oprah show, when he was talking about one of his books, don’t quote me, but I think it came from the book “Instinct”. And he said, “You can’t explain to a turtle a giraffe vision”. The reason what he was saying there is about viewpoints or sight lines. A turtle and a giraffe one is not better than the other. Each animal is not better than the other but the viewpoint. But the vantage point is so much different. A giraffe has a very tall neck, it has vision and it can see far out. But a turtle is a little lower on the ground right and it can only see from its viewpoint.
Jineen (Host) 4:31
Let’s talk about what TD Jakes says with a giraffe and even if you do some literature review on it. A giraffe pumps its big heart pumps all the blood flow up to his neck, it rarely comes down, meaning its neck rarely comes down but only to get a drink of water every so often and when it leans his neck down. That is his most endangered time meaning that is when the risk or the vulnerability is the highest of getting attacked. But when they’ve bent down briefly because they need nutrients they need to level up. And so when you want to put that into layman’s terms of life, you have people who see a vision, they want the vision for the people, they lean their neck down to help them and help themselves. And sometimes they get that endangered state too long. And then if the blood flow can’t go back up their neck, they pass out. And if they pass out, then they become at risk for damage or danger. So sometimes you can’t explain to somebody a vision that God gave to you, because they can’t see it from the level that you see.
Jineen (Host) 5:37
I can say from my personal life, I saw a lot of vision and things and people that I was like, yo, you’re going to be great if you do X, Y, and Z. And they’re like, Jineen, I don’t see it. Well, sometimes I was trying to bring them with me on my vision or my flight. And they weren’t down for it. They couldn’t see what I saw. So what I learned is that I was endangering myself by continuing to not stoop down, because that’s not the term I want to use. But I was endangering myself by sticking my neck out in certain places that I shouldn’t have done, because it put me too far at risk for getting harmed. And if you want to be candid on this podcast, which you can see I have been sometimes you can get bit by a snake and not even know it was in your camp. So you have to be careful when you are out here. In the streets, as I say, that’s my little lingo in the streets, you have to be careful when you’re out here because you can turn around and get endangered and don’t even know, because you’re not watching your whole 360 you only see the first part.
Jineen (Host) 6:44
So now that we talked about turtles and giraffes, and let me be clear and make a disclaimer, I have no issues with turtles. Because I am a nurse, there is a nursing sorority that I belong to. That is our mascot. And it represents perseverance and slow and steady wins the race. So let’s not take that out of context. But for what we’re talking about today, a giraffe represents vision and foresight, and dreams and moving forward into those dreams. So I have a giraffe in my office, I was wearing giraffe jewelry. My brother and I bought different giraffe items for each other. He bought me something really nice for my living room. Giraffes are like my spirit animals, kind of funny when I’m out doing my side business. My patients know me by my hat, I had a special scrub hat made in the giraffe print. You know, everybody rocking the leopard, I had this special giraffe hat made and when I’m out, that’s how my patients remember me. And they’re like, Hey, you are the one who wears that giraffe hat. And I’m like, yeah, because it’s my spirit animal.
Jineen (Host) 7:49
When I use it for insight or vision, because pretty much when you’re thinking things and you’re changing negative thoughts and mindsets, you have to train it like a muscle. So you have to continuously see it’s implanted in your mind of what you’re thinking and what you’re doing. And I wanted to say to myself, I have vision, I have vision, I have vision. And so I put it everywhere to remind myself, girl, you got vision.
Jineen (Host) 8:13
Thoughts are everything when we dig into the purpose. So we’re gonna dig more today. I feel like how do we intentionally set, renew our mind, on our purpose and our vision and be that “intentional Queen thinketh” , pulling from James Allen’s book. You got to change your thoughts. Everything is either a positive seed or negative seed, and we want to change the bad ones.
Jineen (Host) 8:37
I talked in my last episode about the meditation app, “Calm”. Sometimes you have to meditate, get yourself out of that negative spirit and get something positive in you. Sometimes you have to reset your mind and put new thoughts down. Sometimes people tell you to list and dump it. So I’m one where I have like 30 things to do. You try to remember it in your head, that’s a part of that Superwoman syndrome, where you’re trying to remember all these things you got to do, I’ll just write out a list and just dump it and then come back to it and knock it down. So that’s really big for me.
Jineen (Host) 9:10
Tyler Perry. I was looking on YouTube, it was almost a year ago. And he was on Joel Osteen’s show. And they asked them to come out and he kept going about praying and maintaining. And so what he said is when you’re up against challenges and storms, the way to get through them is you have to pray. So you can go higher and then you maintain that level until you get to the next one and you pray and maintain and you just keep going higher until you get closer to your vision or your vantage point, like a giraffe would Intel.
Jineen (Host) 9:47
We talked about spark joy when we talked about our Thanksgiving episode and gratitude. You have to figure out what makes you happy. When I did the women’s night last night I started off with an icebreaker of, What’s something that brings you joy or excites you or gives you energy. And the women gave me so much insight about that. We also talked about last night’s stressors. Because once we dug into our stressors, we were able to really dig into some things that were bothering us, and how to lead more into self care. I don’t want to get too far off topic. But it was our thoughts about our stressors that led to how deep we were able to be and how vulnerable we were last night, and being able to encourage and level up each other.
Jineen (Host) 10:41
Sometimes you have to schedule a worrying time, if you got a lot of stuff on your plate with your stressors, you know, sometimes you gotta just schedule that time. So you’ll say you know what, I’m gonna deal with this crap later tonight, between nine and ten when I put my child to bed, whatever it is, you’re going to have to sometimes schedule you’re worried because you can’t walk around holding the weight of the world on your shoulders every day or being so consumed in your problems that you can’t enjoy the little things because sometimes, it’s just a moment in time. Some I said that last night, and I thought that was awesome. And sometimes the worry, we have to remember it is just a moment in time.
Jineen (Host) 11:28
Let’s dig more into the vision. So last episode, when I did Thanksgiving and vision, we talked about Steve Harvey, and him saying that you need to have a vision board, or you need to write down what you want and write all those things down. So hopefully you guys were able to accomplish that. Once you create that now, now we need to try to create a lifestyle that changes things for the long term process. So remember, I said it is like a trained muscle. So you have to get it in your head that you’re going to meditate on the things that you want. Let’s relate it to a process when you’re pregnant, it takes nine months, usually unless you have a premature child, nine months to carry a baby. It’s a process, the baby’s not fully grown until it hits maturity closer to my ninth month or third trimester. Let’s talk about some nurses out there that are listening. There’s the Benner theory where it talks about novice nurse to the expert nurse when I came out in Nursing at 17. And to now be 20 years out, I wasn’t the same nurse that I am today as I was the nurse back then.
Jineen (Host) 12:42
I put out a post about the launching of the Intentional Queen Podcast. I have had it out since October 2020. But I recently told my family and friends a couple weeks ago. And it was a lot of people who had seen me in my humble beginnings as a nurse that reached out to me, let me know me, Wow, you’ve impacted me, or I remember when we used to whatever and work together. So this is what I’m talking about from novice to expert. Now I feel expert in things. 20 years, it’s been some time I’ve done a lot of different types of nursing, things, and a lot of degrees. But I tell my students every time that I have some with me that it’s always something new, you can learn.
Jineen (Host) 13:19
And you can see that for me doing this podcast, it’s not about nursing, but it’s something new that I’m learning. I enjoy empowering women. I didn’t even know men were listening to it. A couple of men reached out to me and told me that they are listening to this podcast too. And some of them were like, “I’m gonna let my girlfriend or my wife know about this, because I feel like you’re trying to uplift women.”
Jineen (Host) 13:40
I’m just so blessed about people wanting to be a part of the Intentional Queen Movement. You hear the term you got to crawl before you walk, or run. I was crawling through this journey to restoration, I will probably say five years of craziness. But the last two, you know it was rough. And when you crawl, you don’t really take heed of where you are in that stage. But then when you walk and run, you say Wow, look at where I am.
Jineen (Host) 14:17
Last night. One of the ladies reached out to me after the event and she said hey, what I really wanted to say or, or emphasizes every woman at that event was at a different phase between novice to expert, or crawling before walking . You want to make sure that each woman knows that you can’t compare my expertise to your novice, you got to check me when I was a novice and go there and you shouldn’t compare yourself at all. But I think sometimes people get stuck on where they see you now and think, I’m not doing as good as I should be. Because look, she went through X, Y and Z and look how she’s doing it.
Jineen (Host) 14:57
No, don’t compare yourself. Embrace where you are in your moment and your time, and you’re crushing. Because that just gets you wadded up and creates more negative thoughts about yourself, because then you compare yourself and not thinking you’re good enough. And remember, we say, your self worth is everything, you are good enough. And once you know who you are in Christ, you really are going to be doing the darn thing.
Jineen (Host) 15:24
When I was getting my master’s degree, it was this one song by Mary, Mary, “Go get it”. And one of the lyrics is “it’s like you look into a telescope, and you see where you’re going to be”. I knew I wanted to be a nurse at four years old. And that’s how I feel about certain things that I’m doing. And even in this podcast, I see where I’m going. It’s like the telescope, not there yet, giraffe vision is coming. And I’m just taking my phase of crawling, walking, and running. And so you got to just step into that. And I’m just reinforcing that because this is for some ladies right here. This is very particular that I feel like I got to drill this out for you. Because it’s a heavy one to take on one.
Jineen (Host) 16:07
I talked about the butterfly in the last episode, because you got to understand where you are in transformation, transformation takes time. And you can’t judge as the woman who reached out to comment last night, you can’t judge the timing that it takes in each process. So hey, my process could be a few years and yours could be a few months, that doesn’t make my process any different than yours, it is whatever time you need to be where you need to be. That’s what you do. Start prepping for your plans.
Jineen (Host) 16:47
Changing your mindset is so key. When you get it in your spirit, you have to say that you believe in yourself, you have to be patient with yourself. You have to start setting some goals. That’s why I said once you know what you want, then you can set goals to achieve them. Change your behavior, what’s not working for you. That’s what it talks about when you talk about James Allen when he says “your character summarizes your thoughts. But if you think the same, you’ll be the same, you’ll have the same results”. He also talks about a garden, and he says, “You reap what you sow. It’s a harvest, you have good seeds, you got bad seeds”.
Jineen (Host) 17:35
That’s heavy on the crushing, right, I talked about them seeds. So it feels good to me that looking at different areas, some that aren’t very spiritual, and some that are that is still comes up to be the same about you reap what you sow, not necessarily where you sow. Your mind is like a garden, you have to continually put good stuff into it. Because if you keep negative stuff, then normally you’re feeding in negative energy to produce negative results. And that’s not what you want. Your goal is to be restored and have positive results. So therefore we got to get positive things inside you.
Jineen (Host) 18:11
Matthew 6:33, y’all keep hearing me say that same verse, my pastor put that down in my spirit A while ago. And I believe it is key to everything. I seek God in everything now. And I make sure that I’m doing it by what he says, not what I think because a lot of times, especially in my past, being so goal oriented. If I wanted it so bad, I didn’t care how much strength, will, or anything it took. I was like, but I’m going to get there. It’s going to happen. And one of my old bosses, she said to me, and she’s spiritual too. She said, when you go and let God take control of something that your will, your might can only get you so far. And I didn’t really understand that about four or five years ago.
Jineen (Host) 19:03
But now,it feels so much better when I let God be the bow and me be the arrow. I relaxed in the tension that God was putting me in because when he set me forth Queens, He out here doing the thing, and I couldn’t do it without y’all. So I thank you
Jineen (Host) 19:20
Let’s talk about the third thing, restoration. Somebody told me another wisdom nugget quote. “Expect the unexpected”. I used to have such high expectations of myself and people. And I mean, I used to be offended by things that I shouldn’t even be offended by. Because I was expecting them to do things as if they were me. But what I realized is, you’re not me, I’m not you, and I can’t expect you to be like me. And so why am I sitting over here getting offended because you’re not responding or doing or behaving the way that I would expect you to do it., If you were me. That was heavy. “Expect the Unexpected”, when I started eliminating expectations of things like last night, I was like, it might be just a couple people to show up. It was a good amount of people, and we were COVID safe. We were blessed last night, and I expected the unexpected.
Jineen (Host) 20:18
Moving forward. It’s just a glance back, don’t be like Lot’s wife.
Jineen (Host) r 20:28
The offenses of others, I was watching a sermon, it was a while back. But they had some good points in the video. And I say this to the people too, “hurt people hurt people”. And what I mean by that is if you don’t heal up old wounds, or be a bag lady, and you carry your baggage from one situation to another, and I’m not just talking about a loving like a love relationship, like a marriage or anything, sometimes even just in friendships, or co workers or whatever. Hurt people, hurt people. And sometimes you don’t really realize when you’re bleeding on people, because your wounds are so heavy, you’re not acknowledging that you need surgery, Mama, and you got to go ahead and get that sutured up, healed up. And then do something different, right. So once I learned that hurting people can hurt people. And that sometimes when you’re hurt, you start finding people that can soothe your wound. But then, when they don’t soothe your wound anymore, you guys become incompatible as friendships, as relationships or whatever. And so then it causes a lot more strife.
Jineen (Host)
So that’s why I say, restoration is something about healing broken places, you got to get back to where you were, I had to find myself in the wilderness and bring her in. And sometimes in the wilderness. She was 10 years old. I’m just calling our ages. But you know, 10 years old, 20 years old, 30 years old, dealing with things. But the biggest lesson that I found was about offenses. I used to take things real personally, even though it might not even be about me because that person’s hurt. Or I’m hurt, right? They’re offending me in something, or some got me feeling some type of way. Got me salty, right, Lot’s wife, don’t be salty, don’t be bitter. And so what you got to learn, they’ll talk about in the Bible about when they were going out to speak the gospel to people in the village, and I’m just ad libbing right now. So they were out in the village, the disciples and speaking the gospel and telling people about things. And then they will go into certain homes and people weren’t receptive to them, or they were very rude to them, or they were very dismissive of them. So the people who were speaking the gospel would leave the home and feel some type of way, like you don’t want to hear this word, you want to hear this knowledge you want to, you want to do this, and they will feel some type of way and take it with them.
Jineen (Host)
But God said, brush your shoulder off, not like Jay Z, but kinda in the same regard, brush your shoulder off, that dust, that dirt, because you don’t need to take that dirt into the next home, to the next relationship, if they don’t want you, or they don’t want help from you, or they’re not ready to deal with their issues. I mean, it’s multiple things that people go through, but it might not be about you, it might be your other sister, woman that can help that person or man help them get what they need. I used to feel like as a nurse, you don’t you don’t want this type of care I’m trying to give you right here. You know, I’m just giving you examples that sometimes it’s not personal, but I will take it personal. So when I did an interview with my good friend, a special shout out to Latorsha from “iced coffee and self care”.
Jineen (Host)
I told her about offenses. And it was like, when you build up offenses, you start building up walls. And you don’t want to build up walls. You want to build up gates, I used to build walls once I let you in and you act a fool. It is a wrap. Wall is up. But what I learned is I was walling out good people too, because I was starting to put everybody in one bubble. And once you start putting everybody in one bubble, you start learning that maybe not. I need to make a gate. We’re gonna talk about that in another episode because I feel like that’s really deep, that you have to know how to have walls and you have to know how to have boundaries.
Jineen (Host)
Do your work, it is endurance and building your foundation. Be wise, have self control over yourself. Really, at the end of the day. You can’t worry about others, you have to deal with yourself and that’s why so when I got humbled up and became a Power Ranger, When I became a Power Ranger. God was dealing with me. Why am I thinking about what they are doing? I need to be thinking about how he was dealing with me. And once you get that in you, you are good because now you are able to change your own behaviors, your reactions to things. That’s what I’m talking about with triggers. And you can do what you need to do. But it’s patience, endurance, and it’s helping you to be a woman of virtue, because you want to be a virtuous woman. Maya Angelou has that phenomenal woman poem. And I feel like that sums up who we are.
Jineen (Host)
When I was watching one movie, and it was from the, “as a man thinketh”. It was a guy who had been wrongfully accused of rape. And it had Morgan Freeman in it and another guy, but Morgan Freeman told the guy to read the book “as a man thinketh” and then in there, he put a little tagline, why don’t you draw this picture. And so this goes back to affirmations, I drew the picture, and I had it on my mirror, probably for about two months straight. And it’s gonna be a circle, with two lines down the middle. And in the middle, the two lines represent distractions. And the reason why it’s a circle is because you’re trying to become complete, your full self. And if you keep allowing yourself to shortcut down the middle by the distractions, you’ll never make your way fully around the course to be your full self. So once I put that little diagram up, that’s how I was able to deal with distractions and say, you know what this is trying to distract me from what I’m trying to do, we want to still do what we need to do and not allow the noise to distract us or where we’re going.
Jineen (Host)
In closing, James Allen talks about “self control is strength and it becomes a mastery and then calmness becomes your power”. So make sure when you can control yourself it is a strength but it’s also a muscle. Once you can do that and deal with your strengths, your triggers, your weaknesses, and create healthy boundaries. Calmness is power when you don’t let the outside noise stop you from your hustle.
Jineen (Host)
So let’s talk about some references. We talked about Proverbs 23:7, how important your thoughts are to your well-being, the stages of the nursing Benner’s theory, stages of butterflies during transformation! But the big thing that we were championing for this episode was the book “as a man thinketh” by James Allen. If you can’t get the book, go on YouTube. Get some of that down in your spirit because I think it’s a blessing. So we are going to call this “as an Intentional Queen thinketh” for this episode.
Jineen (Host)
I’m going to call to action for you guys to reset your mind. Embrace where you are in your phase of your journey. Avoid distractions, know your limits, create boundaries. And no matter what, every step is important in your season because it creates experience. Don’t be scared to fail. It is a lesson to think about Thomas Edison, how many times did he have to fail in order to succeed? I think it was 1000s of times. So you just get back up and we’re going to Shift Your Crown Together.
Jineen (Host)
I want you to Continue to Level up your Intentional Queen (I.Q.) to a BETTER you! I want you to stay engaged in the Intentional Queen Movement. I want to thank all of my fellow Intentional Queens for their support. I’m gonna see you on the next episode every two weeks (on Thursdays).
Jineen (Host) 28:31
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